Today I am going to talk about the recent furore regarding star of tv show Grey’s Anatomy & human rights activist Jesse Williams alleged cheating rumours and divorce proceedings. This threw up two issues: Black v white relationships Man v women in relationships The first point is a distraction. The impact of the second is what I am going to focus on in this episode. Apart from the pop culture interest value, this is just another reminder of what being a woman is, or needs to be, because we cannot always anticipate being let down. I talk about why I think we should give Jesse a pass; (kind of). Plus why these stories are wake up calls, maybe even blessings in disguise.